the b-log.

as a child i thought if someone jumped me it would result in me murdering or mutilating a man. but as a man i am not a killer. i'm an artist and a modern person. i'll choose sanity. no criminal charges. no civil lawsuit. forgiveness, albeit difficult, is wisdom. peace, albeit trite, is what i want in my short life. peace.

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 18:44:59 -0500

love this man.

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Fri, 25 Jan 2013 23:17:25 -0500

jenkirkman: sarapocock: This happens all the time. Every car...

Wed, 23 Jan 2013 12:42:02 -0500

sarapocock:

This happens all the time. Every car horn, every whistle, every cat call and lewd exclamation, strengthens the lesson I’ve been taught over and over and over again throughout my entire life: as a lady, my body is on public display and open for judgment—from anyone.

Most men who will see this are decent, rational guys who will sympathize with my feelings. A small, vocal handful of dudes will send me private messages about how women like me can’t “take a fucking compliment.” This is not for either of you. This is for the guys who don’t know yet that attracting unwanted attention doesn’t make women feel good, no matter how nice their intentions are. I can’t speak for everyone, but I can say that I personally get embarrassed, often scared, and always—ALWAYS—ashamed, in some way, in how I look.

So… now that you know, cut it out. Tell all the girls how nice they are and how amazing they are at their jobs instead.

I am probably told about ten to twenty times a week that I can’t take a compliment and that I can’t take jokes. I hate that it happens all the time but I feel less insane when I hear that other women whom I don’t know all that well personally have the same gut feelings I do when we are treated this way. - Jen

“Every girl is expected to have caucasian blue eyes, full...

Thu, 17 Jan 2013 01:59:17 -0500

“Every girl is expected to have caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama and doll tits. This is why everyone is struggling.”

-Tina Fey

"Every time we heard a gunshot somebody would say “oh, it’s just firecrackers.” But..."

Thu, 20 Dec 2012 23:09:53 -0500

“Every time we heard a gunshot somebody would say “oh, it’s just firecrackers.” But really? People are just randomly shooting off firecrackers all the time? Even in the winter? Even in a town where nobody has a yard? I think it’s a conspiracy, a lie people started telling because it’s easier than hearing gunshots. It’s a privilege for us to hear that noise and imagine it’s all just another shiny explosion in the sky.”

- Autostraddle — It’s Your Gun Culture: The Autostraddle Roundtable

The so-called "bromance" between actors Matt Damon and Ben Affleck has been a near-endless source of tabloid speculation since they first collaborated on "Good Will Hunting" in 1997. Damon discusses those rumors -- and then some -- in a new interview with Playboy magazine, saying he and Affleck were in "a weird position" with regard to the scrutiny. "I never denied those rumors because I was offended and didn’t want to offend my friends who were gay -- as if being gay were some kind of fking disease...the whole thing was just gross," Damon told the magazine. "But look, there have been great signs of progress -- the fact that Anderson Cooper and Ellen DeGeneres can come out so beautifully and powerfully, and it’s a big fking deal that it turns out nobody gives a shit. If Liberace were alive today, everybody would love his music and nobody would care what he did in his private life." Still, Damon is set to play gay in the forthcoming HBO biopic, "Behind The Candelabra," in which he portrays Scott Thorson, the long-term lover of Liberace (Michael Douglas). "These two men were deeply in love and in a real relationship -- a marriage -- long before there was gay marriage," Damon says of the real-life pair. "That’s not an insignificant thing. The script is beautiful and relatable. Their conversations when they’re dressing or undressing or having a spat or getting ready for bed? That’s every marriage."

Sun, 16 Dec 2012 12:56:01 -0500

Matt Damon On Ben Affleck Gay ‘Bromance’ Rumors And Playing Liberace’s Lover

Bum Like You-Robyn

Fri, 14 Dec 2012 22:03:52 -0500

Bum Like You-Robyn

Never Lost One- Sister Nancy vs. Lauryn Hill (Wick It Remix)

Fri, 14 Dec 2012 21:54:42 -0500

Never Lost One- Sister Nancy vs. Lauryn Hill (Wick It Remix)

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Fri, 14 Dec 2012 21:42:20 -0500

Kids Songs With Cat Power Have you ever looked in the eyes of...

Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:21:27 -0500

Kids Songs With Cat Power

Have you ever looked in the eyes of a cow?

carmenrios: trigger warning: sexual violence. i am not able to...

Mon, 10 Dec 2012 21:20:52 -0500

carmenrios:

trigger warning: sexual violence.
i am not able to log into facebook until i apologize for doing valid feminist work in the nation’s capital.

in the past few days, presumably, a woman named “kim” (i will not reveal her last name or her email address) reported some of the slutwalk content on my own profile (i am unsure which content, because i have not logged back in) as “offensive” or “harassment.” although she is referring to this past week’s 2012 slutwalk, i was only present in 2011, where i spoke and was therefore photographed.

her message to me, along with her contact information, was included in a facebook “checkpoint” which stops me from accessing my account until i accept that my involvement with last year’s DC slutwalk breeches the facebook community standards and guidelines. (as a point of clarification, valid reasons to be successfully blocked from your profile on facebook include nudity, stealing intellectual property, and inciting or threatening to commit acts of violence. i did none of the listed behaviors within the community standards document on facebook’s website.)

i refuse to click “continue” and re-enter my facebook because i should never have been interrupted. by clicking “continue,” i am apologizing for something i refuse to apologize for, and i am also allowing what occurred to occur again.

considering facebook tolerates racism, rape jokes, and other offensive material in the name of “free speech,” it is weird to be banned from my own account merely for doing social justice work. but it is at least good to know that i was correct to assume that the only speech freely allowed on facebook is white, cisgender, straight, male speech by individuals attempting to oppress everyone else.

for now you can reach me on twitter or even send me a message here on tumblr. i also have a google plus.

peace out, zuckerfuck.

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Mon, 10 Dec 2012 21:18:52 -0500

total dream sequence. right down to the coke bottles.

Fri, 07 Dec 2012 15:43:00 -0500

total dream sequence. right down to the coke bottles.

‘tis the season, babes.

Thu, 06 Dec 2012 00:40:00 -0500

‘tis the season, babes.

My Best Friend is Gay: Where Social Networks Meets Same-Sex Marriage-The Atlantic

Sat, 01 Dec 2012 16:52:21 -0500

My Best Friend is Gay: Where Social Networks Meets Same-Sex Marriage-The Atlantic

14 Intimate Portraits Of People Living With HIV And AIDS

Sat, 01 Dec 2012 16:48:13 -0500

14 Intimate Portraits Of People Living With HIV And AIDS

Tegan and Sara - Closer #micdrop.

Thu, 29 Nov 2012 13:54:00 -0500

Tegan and Sara - Closer

#micdrop.

Ms. Lehman said she felt no guilt over her role in the law banning federal recognition of same-sex marriage. Her motivation, she said, is her gratitude for those who fought for gay rights decades before she knew the cause was her own. If it were not for them, “I would not be living the wonderful life that I am right now with Julie,” Ms. Lehman said, referring to her partner, Julie Conway, a Republican fund-raiser, with whom she lives in Alexandria, Va.

Mon, 26 Nov 2012 21:52:33 -0500

Republican and Lesbian, and Fighting for Acceptance of Both Identities - NYTimes.com

Backstage with Designer Jenna Lyons at J.Crew Spring 2013...

Mon, 26 Nov 2012 20:42:36 -0500

Backstage with Designer Jenna Lyons at J.Crew Spring 2013 Collection (by NewYorkMagazine)

Interviewer: So, is there less tomboy this season, would you say?

JL: There’s always tomboy. I would never take the tomboy out.

Lesbians Will Marry Your Boyfriends

Sun, 25 Nov 2012 23:12:19 -0500

Lesbians Will Marry Your Boyfriends